success

Start now, but prepare to start again...

One of the biggest tragedies of humanity that I have ever had the displeasure of observing is apprehension. Interestingly enough we are one of only a few species who are capable of scaring ourselves. Make no mistake, fear is an absolutely vital part of survival. Like "no honey, don't pet the saber-tooth tiger" sort of survival. Its just that fear has continued to evolve, warp and control us. In fact its the mechanism that most marketing actually feeds on. Ironic as that may seem, most of what we do or consume happens out of fear. Fear of missing out, fear of rejections, fear of death of course, fear of ridicule, or most commonly fear of failure. 

The most perplexing struggle of humanity is our inability to realize our own true potential. I often ponder what this world would be like if somehow, without limitation, every human was living to and realizing their potential. Could you imagine? Instead we live in a world where its more vital to actually control or diminish others potential. When you stop to critically think about all the natural "mechanisms" in place that we just accept as reality, you truly start to live. That however is a very long conversation, and one we cannot address in today mindset blog. It is, however, something you can begin doing. Question everything, and I don't necessarily mean in a defiance sort of way. 

Upon questioning, you should likely, if only by assumption, find some semblance of an answer. These answers offer enlightenment, perspective, and a change in perception usually. Much of what we consider reality, obstacle, or fear is simply just a byproduct of the mechanisms put in place. Im not offering you to become a cynic of society. That would be dismal, and I want you vibrant. I am offering the truth that as humans we tend to focus a little too much on the negative, and unfortunately we have created a world as such. That which stands in your way, is very often, if not always, the way. Tell yourself a different story, see it differently, achieve it. 

Understandably this is a long term mindset change, and it takes countless hours of diligence and fascination. Much of which I assume you as busy people have already resigned to "not having time for". Except its a lot simpler than you may think. In fact, anything you want, takes one moment of consciousness, decisiveness, and then just forward action. Then the trick is to do so even minimally every day. This isn't about success, or greatness, because Im not a success guy, Im a process guy. I love pursuits more than arrivals, moments, more than dreams. There is some necessity in this paradigm shift for all of you. 

We are sold success's. Cars, houses, incomes, dreams, vacations, happiness is even sold to us. All of which is sold as an endpoint. An acquisition if you just do the right things. Except no one tells you what those right things are, because process and progress is largely unmarketable. You're sold systems, and beliefs, and tools, and certifications, and countless other perhaps semi-necessary, or perhaps completely arbitrary distractions. The first vital part to your success is truly understanding what that looks like, and not what you have been sold. Strip it down, groom your goal down to the purpose, and that purpose is to add value to your life. Once you have clarity, start. Start small. Expect that its likely going to fail or be encumbered a few times, and you will inevitably need to start again. If its valuable, and its clear, and its passion driven you will maintain forward action. If its superfluous, vain, narcissistic, this does not work. 

Success chases passion, passion is bred by purpose, purpose is necessitated by excellence. Compile all the successful people you know, and you will find one infallible truth. They have always prioritized excellence of their purpose over everything else. Every great restaurant, every tech CEO, every great gym etc.. They all have an underlying truth, they love what they do, more than they love money or accomplishment. We unfortunately know them for their success's, acquisitions and powers likely. However these people found one thing they loved, and they did it every day, to the best of their ability, for excellence, never to be overachieved. Find the thing that excites you, and start, but also prepare to start again. 

Constant action, always forward, despite fear.

-Tony

The struggle is real!

The modern world sucks! Ok, ok, Ill take that back. We have accomplished so many unreal things, the human life has catapulted so much further than even just our grandparents could expect. The issue is with progress often comes change, and change albeit a good thing, creates some ripples. What we have now is a pond that was once relatively flat, and because of these ripples a tsunami is approaching. Momentum is a funny thing. 

Let me be clear, I do not have it all figured out. I wouldn't even call my successful. I would however give myself the credit of being a Metacognitive autodidact. Two fancy words to say, I screw things up, and I try them again differently, and ponder the smallest of actions. So in all the the things Ive done right, and the things Ive done wrong, the relative success and experience Ive learned is that all progress is simply momentum. Maintaining a steady state of Momentum is really the key to all success.  Without getting philosophical, achievement and life are liquid. Capable of standing still, or adversely formidable-momentum. The mass of liquid, or you, largely stays the same, the action which you put forth on this mass, changes its capability immensely. The key? It takes only a breeze or tremor to enact change. We are always trying to create a tidal wave of success, when we need just create a ripple. 

This works in both ways though. Two waves converging in the ocean create a cataclysmic effect. [Enter the Rogue wave, Go research the Agulhas Current and its impact with the westerlies] Obviously were not talking about the climate, fluid dynamics, or maritime dangers. What Im trying to draw here is a correlation of the fluidity of life and the ubiquitous rogue wave. Rogue waves interestingly enough happen in all matter; gases, sound waves, liquids, even solids (resonation). Therefore momentum is everywhere.  What is important here is control of current, and conservation of momentum forward. When our optimism is hit from the outside world, lets say social medias reminder of our inequity. We tend to subduct, let that wave crash over us and let its momentum carry us under while it builds on its negative momentum. The only trick here is the conservation of energy. This simply requires constant ripples. So that when faced with the impending tides of terror, they subduct. 

Ok enough about fluids. All I'm saying is baby steps. Were so constantly focused on what we don't have we set goals for precisely that. Instead of looking at a goal as a series of very small tasks. We only simply see the car, home, wife/husband, and dreams others experience. While we trudge about in our daily life gaining no traction. A ripple is all thats needed. In almost all the examples of defeat I have encountered both personally and with you, its the times when the inbound current crushed your momentum. Every wave is gonna hit the shore! The secret to any goal is to set the steps so clear and small that momentum is unwavering. 

Our world is 100% now at odds with your success. Social media is not your friend. Sure its sold to us as such. "keep in contact with friends family, see what so-and-so is up to". No. For clearer example. Head to your Instagram and click the magnifying glass. How awesome, an entire feed custom designed to my interests! Not exactly, this is actually more like your Den of Inequity. A reminder of everything you don't have, photo after photo. The body, the car, the girl, the parties, the travel, the job, the clothes. Whats worse is that this doesn't just apply to you, it applies to your significant other, friends, and family too. Helping to create false hope and expectations of a relationship and life. To top that? Its never going to end. Social media is here to stay. 

Momentum. Ripples. Once in action, the key is to stay in action. Surround yourself with the people who support your mission. Focus on your ripples, not the intended wave. Celebrate the excitement that comes from moving just a fraction forward every day. You've all experienced it at least once, something that starts rolling and you just feel unstoppable. It could have just been the first time you rode a bike, or it could have been a project at work. That energy is contagious. This is why a community is so important. This is why Paradigm works, we're the pond, you're the ripples, and we make some massive waves! For your next task, you need to keep it moving. In a closed system all energy remains constant. It can absolutely be converted from one form to another though. The Conservation of energy on the positive pursuit is the absolute focus. Let it run wild and it can just as easily convert to the self defeating negative. Ripples. 

Take today not in strides, take today in steps, tomorrow too. Wait a few weeks, and look back, you won't even see where you started from. Just keep moving. 

~Tony