motivation

I Am: Developing!

I grew up a little rowdy,  I remember one time my mother told me that my first enemy would more likely become my best friend, than he would be my enemy for too long. Honestly I never understood that statement then, I also never forgot it. Funny part is she was right and my childhood best friend was also the first person "I hated" (except I had no idea what hate meant at that age lol). Her statement in many ways stated something more in depth that Id come to learn later. That which you give your energy too will consume you, and those who come into your life, do so for a reason. Often times to challenge us, and if we choose, always to improve us. 

Tim Dougherty was this person to me. I in complete and utter honesty disliked him at first. For ultimately no reason. He was a threat and I categorized him unfairly that way. Tim bounced in and out casually a few years ago, and I resigned him to one of my coaches to "deal with" and was he ever high maintenance. Not only did he move like a rock, but ironically you also couldn't slow him down. He was like a runaway freight train.. Little did I know how impressive this capacity would prove to be for him later on. I judged him, and I was wrong, and this was only the first lesson he unknowingly taught me. 

Fast forward a year or two, and Tim created this service. A seemingly simple, basic nutritional delivery service. I watched like I do most things, until finally I needed to be involved. Lesson two was hubris, humility, and humbling. I picked up my phone and made contact, and also apologized for what he was truthfully unaware of. Tim in just his presence in my life had already made me better because he was challenging me. This would catapult him to a position of utmost importance to me. 

Lesson three was disposition. You see Tim and I were a lot alike. Similar past, outlook, energy, and competitive drive as well. So seeing myself in him was always quite simple. In many ways he was like a lesser haired looking glass, and admittedly way less body fat too.. However upon developing our friendship I was also granted a front row seat to one of the most empowering, impressive, and captivating personal evolutions I would ever see. Tim has had a huge influence in my life and he's someone I call a true friend, which is something of extreme value to me. However Tim isn't being highlighted here because of his role in my life. Tim is being highlighted here because of his own life. 

I am Developing.

Paradigm goes way beyond fitness for me. Previously I focused on the mirror and what song was in my iPod. Now I focus on movement and giving and receiving encouragement from others. Previously the gym was an escape and now its where I go to connect. The greatest value is my wife and Children are also there working out. For the first time we all have a common ground to talk about at the dinner table.

Paradigm is developing my movement, my friendships, and most importantly my Family, Paradigm strengthens my life in all ways.

-Tim Dougherty

In just a few short years, Tim has taken the world by storm. To do so, he simply opened his heart, embraced vulnerability, and his reach compounded. Many people know the Tim they see today, and that man deserves incredible respect. I know the Tim it took to get there, and that deserves even more. His compassion is infectious, his enthusiasm is motivating, and his disposition is life changing. Tim is one of the most incredible success stories I have ever seen, and I am honored to know that Paradigm has had a small part in that role. As one of the more inspiring stories in todays world I personally utilize his development as a measuring stick for myself. This is lesson #4 and all of which he never knew. 

Fast forward to today and our companies are completely intertwined, our families as well, and even our fitness. Not surprising, as our Core values align seamlessly. Tim and his family and the rest of Project Lean Nation are a breathing testament to the foundational value of growth from struggle, and that struggle is systemically administered here. We all get up together! Tim's success in life, family, health, and business is a snapshot of Paradigms Core Focus and Values, Health, Humanity, and Happiness. Theres no one better story to tell it. 

All of us here at Paradigm are endlessly proud of you sir, and I only hope I can do this incredible story just a little bit of justice. Heres to a thousand more WOD's, and endless personal growth good sir. You truly are "Developing" 

-Tony

The struggle is real!

The modern world sucks! Ok, ok, Ill take that back. We have accomplished so many unreal things, the human life has catapulted so much further than even just our grandparents could expect. The issue is with progress often comes change, and change albeit a good thing, creates some ripples. What we have now is a pond that was once relatively flat, and because of these ripples a tsunami is approaching. Momentum is a funny thing. 

Let me be clear, I do not have it all figured out. I wouldn't even call my successful. I would however give myself the credit of being a Metacognitive autodidact. Two fancy words to say, I screw things up, and I try them again differently, and ponder the smallest of actions. So in all the the things Ive done right, and the things Ive done wrong, the relative success and experience Ive learned is that all progress is simply momentum. Maintaining a steady state of Momentum is really the key to all success.  Without getting philosophical, achievement and life are liquid. Capable of standing still, or adversely formidable-momentum. The mass of liquid, or you, largely stays the same, the action which you put forth on this mass, changes its capability immensely. The key? It takes only a breeze or tremor to enact change. We are always trying to create a tidal wave of success, when we need just create a ripple. 

This works in both ways though. Two waves converging in the ocean create a cataclysmic effect. [Enter the Rogue wave, Go research the Agulhas Current and its impact with the westerlies] Obviously were not talking about the climate, fluid dynamics, or maritime dangers. What Im trying to draw here is a correlation of the fluidity of life and the ubiquitous rogue wave. Rogue waves interestingly enough happen in all matter; gases, sound waves, liquids, even solids (resonation). Therefore momentum is everywhere.  What is important here is control of current, and conservation of momentum forward. When our optimism is hit from the outside world, lets say social medias reminder of our inequity. We tend to subduct, let that wave crash over us and let its momentum carry us under while it builds on its negative momentum. The only trick here is the conservation of energy. This simply requires constant ripples. So that when faced with the impending tides of terror, they subduct. 

Ok enough about fluids. All I'm saying is baby steps. Were so constantly focused on what we don't have we set goals for precisely that. Instead of looking at a goal as a series of very small tasks. We only simply see the car, home, wife/husband, and dreams others experience. While we trudge about in our daily life gaining no traction. A ripple is all thats needed. In almost all the examples of defeat I have encountered both personally and with you, its the times when the inbound current crushed your momentum. Every wave is gonna hit the shore! The secret to any goal is to set the steps so clear and small that momentum is unwavering. 

Our world is 100% now at odds with your success. Social media is not your friend. Sure its sold to us as such. "keep in contact with friends family, see what so-and-so is up to". No. For clearer example. Head to your Instagram and click the magnifying glass. How awesome, an entire feed custom designed to my interests! Not exactly, this is actually more like your Den of Inequity. A reminder of everything you don't have, photo after photo. The body, the car, the girl, the parties, the travel, the job, the clothes. Whats worse is that this doesn't just apply to you, it applies to your significant other, friends, and family too. Helping to create false hope and expectations of a relationship and life. To top that? Its never going to end. Social media is here to stay. 

Momentum. Ripples. Once in action, the key is to stay in action. Surround yourself with the people who support your mission. Focus on your ripples, not the intended wave. Celebrate the excitement that comes from moving just a fraction forward every day. You've all experienced it at least once, something that starts rolling and you just feel unstoppable. It could have just been the first time you rode a bike, or it could have been a project at work. That energy is contagious. This is why a community is so important. This is why Paradigm works, we're the pond, you're the ripples, and we make some massive waves! For your next task, you need to keep it moving. In a closed system all energy remains constant. It can absolutely be converted from one form to another though. The Conservation of energy on the positive pursuit is the absolute focus. Let it run wild and it can just as easily convert to the self defeating negative. Ripples. 

Take today not in strides, take today in steps, tomorrow too. Wait a few weeks, and look back, you won't even see where you started from. Just keep moving. 

~Tony