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Start now, but prepare to start again...

One of the biggest tragedies of humanity that I have ever had the displeasure of observing is apprehension. Interestingly enough we are one of only a few species who are capable of scaring ourselves. Make no mistake, fear is an absolutely vital part of survival. Like "no honey, don't pet the saber-tooth tiger" sort of survival. Its just that fear has continued to evolve, warp and control us. In fact its the mechanism that most marketing actually feeds on. Ironic as that may seem, most of what we do or consume happens out of fear. Fear of missing out, fear of rejections, fear of death of course, fear of ridicule, or most commonly fear of failure. 

The most perplexing struggle of humanity is our inability to realize our own true potential. I often ponder what this world would be like if somehow, without limitation, every human was living to and realizing their potential. Could you imagine? Instead we live in a world where its more vital to actually control or diminish others potential. When you stop to critically think about all the natural "mechanisms" in place that we just accept as reality, you truly start to live. That however is a very long conversation, and one we cannot address in today mindset blog. It is, however, something you can begin doing. Question everything, and I don't necessarily mean in a defiance sort of way. 

Upon questioning, you should likely, if only by assumption, find some semblance of an answer. These answers offer enlightenment, perspective, and a change in perception usually. Much of what we consider reality, obstacle, or fear is simply just a byproduct of the mechanisms put in place. Im not offering you to become a cynic of society. That would be dismal, and I want you vibrant. I am offering the truth that as humans we tend to focus a little too much on the negative, and unfortunately we have created a world as such. That which stands in your way, is very often, if not always, the way. Tell yourself a different story, see it differently, achieve it. 

Understandably this is a long term mindset change, and it takes countless hours of diligence and fascination. Much of which I assume you as busy people have already resigned to "not having time for". Except its a lot simpler than you may think. In fact, anything you want, takes one moment of consciousness, decisiveness, and then just forward action. Then the trick is to do so even minimally every day. This isn't about success, or greatness, because Im not a success guy, Im a process guy. I love pursuits more than arrivals, moments, more than dreams. There is some necessity in this paradigm shift for all of you. 

We are sold success's. Cars, houses, incomes, dreams, vacations, happiness is even sold to us. All of which is sold as an endpoint. An acquisition if you just do the right things. Except no one tells you what those right things are, because process and progress is largely unmarketable. You're sold systems, and beliefs, and tools, and certifications, and countless other perhaps semi-necessary, or perhaps completely arbitrary distractions. The first vital part to your success is truly understanding what that looks like, and not what you have been sold. Strip it down, groom your goal down to the purpose, and that purpose is to add value to your life. Once you have clarity, start. Start small. Expect that its likely going to fail or be encumbered a few times, and you will inevitably need to start again. If its valuable, and its clear, and its passion driven you will maintain forward action. If its superfluous, vain, narcissistic, this does not work. 

Success chases passion, passion is bred by purpose, purpose is necessitated by excellence. Compile all the successful people you know, and you will find one infallible truth. They have always prioritized excellence of their purpose over everything else. Every great restaurant, every tech CEO, every great gym etc.. They all have an underlying truth, they love what they do, more than they love money or accomplishment. We unfortunately know them for their success's, acquisitions and powers likely. However these people found one thing they loved, and they did it every day, to the best of their ability, for excellence, never to be overachieved. Find the thing that excites you, and start, but also prepare to start again. 

Constant action, always forward, despite fear.

-Tony

I Am: Developing!

I grew up a little rowdy,  I remember one time my mother told me that my first enemy would more likely become my best friend, than he would be my enemy for too long. Honestly I never understood that statement then, I also never forgot it. Funny part is she was right and my childhood best friend was also the first person "I hated" (except I had no idea what hate meant at that age lol). Her statement in many ways stated something more in depth that Id come to learn later. That which you give your energy too will consume you, and those who come into your life, do so for a reason. Often times to challenge us, and if we choose, always to improve us. 

Tim Dougherty was this person to me. I in complete and utter honesty disliked him at first. For ultimately no reason. He was a threat and I categorized him unfairly that way. Tim bounced in and out casually a few years ago, and I resigned him to one of my coaches to "deal with" and was he ever high maintenance. Not only did he move like a rock, but ironically you also couldn't slow him down. He was like a runaway freight train.. Little did I know how impressive this capacity would prove to be for him later on. I judged him, and I was wrong, and this was only the first lesson he unknowingly taught me. 

Fast forward a year or two, and Tim created this service. A seemingly simple, basic nutritional delivery service. I watched like I do most things, until finally I needed to be involved. Lesson two was hubris, humility, and humbling. I picked up my phone and made contact, and also apologized for what he was truthfully unaware of. Tim in just his presence in my life had already made me better because he was challenging me. This would catapult him to a position of utmost importance to me. 

Lesson three was disposition. You see Tim and I were a lot alike. Similar past, outlook, energy, and competitive drive as well. So seeing myself in him was always quite simple. In many ways he was like a lesser haired looking glass, and admittedly way less body fat too.. However upon developing our friendship I was also granted a front row seat to one of the most empowering, impressive, and captivating personal evolutions I would ever see. Tim has had a huge influence in my life and he's someone I call a true friend, which is something of extreme value to me. However Tim isn't being highlighted here because of his role in my life. Tim is being highlighted here because of his own life. 

I am Developing.

Paradigm goes way beyond fitness for me. Previously I focused on the mirror and what song was in my iPod. Now I focus on movement and giving and receiving encouragement from others. Previously the gym was an escape and now its where I go to connect. The greatest value is my wife and Children are also there working out. For the first time we all have a common ground to talk about at the dinner table.

Paradigm is developing my movement, my friendships, and most importantly my Family, Paradigm strengthens my life in all ways.

-Tim Dougherty

In just a few short years, Tim has taken the world by storm. To do so, he simply opened his heart, embraced vulnerability, and his reach compounded. Many people know the Tim they see today, and that man deserves incredible respect. I know the Tim it took to get there, and that deserves even more. His compassion is infectious, his enthusiasm is motivating, and his disposition is life changing. Tim is one of the most incredible success stories I have ever seen, and I am honored to know that Paradigm has had a small part in that role. As one of the more inspiring stories in todays world I personally utilize his development as a measuring stick for myself. This is lesson #4 and all of which he never knew. 

Fast forward to today and our companies are completely intertwined, our families as well, and even our fitness. Not surprising, as our Core values align seamlessly. Tim and his family and the rest of Project Lean Nation are a breathing testament to the foundational value of growth from struggle, and that struggle is systemically administered here. We all get up together! Tim's success in life, family, health, and business is a snapshot of Paradigms Core Focus and Values, Health, Humanity, and Happiness. Theres no one better story to tell it. 

All of us here at Paradigm are endlessly proud of you sir, and I only hope I can do this incredible story just a little bit of justice. Heres to a thousand more WOD's, and endless personal growth good sir. You truly are "Developing" 

-Tony